What kind of woman are you?

This morning I read Proverbs 31:10-31, and the four adjectives that came to my mind were:

Productive, wise, generous, and kind.

This passage paints a beautiful portrait of the virtuous woman.  This is a very different image than the idolized celebrity that could so easily be described as: 

Beautiful, successful, prideful, and vain.

What kind of woman are you?  Where are you looking to determine what kind of woman to be?

So many of us women learn as we go, trying this and that until we realize that doesn’t work.  We all have experiences and pasts that should help us define our values.  The saying, if you stand for nothing then you fall for anything is so true.  

What do you stand for?  What won’t you do?  What is important to you?  What do you value?  Do you even know yourself?  What are you good at?  What does your ideal life look like?

These are the questions that we should be asking ourselves in order to grow and evolve as women.  So maybe a better question could be:

What kind of woman do you want to be?  

I, too, remember the time when my life fell very short of what I wanted.  The thing is, we must never settle and accept our current situation if we know it’s less than we’re worth.  In order to make that call, though, you must first know what you are worth.

Let me help you with that:

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.”  – Jeremiah 29:11

You are worth peace.

“For your shame ye shall have double; and for confusion they shall rejoice in their portion: there-fore in their land they shall possess the double: everlasting joy shall be unto them.”  – Isaiah 61:7

You are worth joy, not confusion.

“Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits: Who forgiveth all thine iniquities; who healeth all thy diseases; Who redeemeth thy life from destruction; who crowneth thee with lovingkindness and tender mercies:” – Psalm 103:2-4

You are worth forgiveness, health, and lovingkindness.

It doesn’t matter where we started in life or what we’ve done along the way, the truth is that Jesus does not treat us as our sins deserve.  He is merciful and gracious, and in Him we are able to be the women that He created us to be.

You are worth it.

With love,


WOMEN: Build Your Home

There is so much to do at home.  The more you focus on your own, the more you discover how much there is to do.  Don’t be fooled by thinking that taking care of home means only cooking and cleaning.  That’s definitely a start, but there’s so much more.

Married?  Build your marriage.  Have kids?  Build your kids.  Everyone’s family is different, but we all have work to do.  

It’s so easy to get caught up doing so many other things to the point that you’re neglecting your own home.  Don’t lose focus, the people in your home are more important than those outside of the home.  Don’t put so much on your plate that when you are home you’re too exhausted to do anything, and don’t allow social media to get more of you than your family gets.

Don’t take what you have for granted, and don’t assume that everything is okay.  No, take the time to ask how everyone is doing, how their day went, how they feel about this or that.  Ask questions to see what’s on their mind, don’t allow any issues to stay hidden.  Create an environment in your home of sharing feelings and dealing with issues.  

Start traditions, stick to routines but allow for spontaneity.  Make a habit of saying I love you, I’m here for you, I want the best for you.  Pray together- everyday.  

“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.”  – Proverbs 14:1

Let’s be women that build what we have at home.


WOMEN: 5 Blessings to Experience

Life is all about experiencing.  It’s what makes it enjoyable and worthwhile, but we don’t want to experience any and everything.  In my humble opinion, here are 5 blessings to experience:

1. Love. There is nothing more empowering than receiving real, genuine, never wavering love.  For me, the greatest love I’ve felt is the love that Jesus Christ has for me.  It’s more than just singing the lyrics “Jesus loves me this I know…”  It’s much, much deeper than that.  It is a blessing to know that He loves me just the way I am, He loved me enough to die for me, He loves me despite my many sins, He loves me simply because of who He is.  This is the greatest love ever.

Secondly, someone recently told me that Christian, married women have been chosen twice.  First by Jesus and then by their husbands.  I believe that when a woman is blessed to have a husband who loves her more than he loves anyone (outside of Jesus, of course) she is truly blessed.  There is nothing like having a faithful man who unconditionally loves you.  Very empowering.

2. Motherhood. To be able to carry a child is a blessing in itself.  When I really think about the intricate process of pregnancy I can’t help but think about how great and wonderful our God is.  There is nothing coincidental or happenstance about the process of pregnancy.  There is something about creating something that makes it so special.  You look at your children and see yourself, you see life that was once inside of you, you see responsibility.  Motherhood is something to cherish and take seriously.  Being a mother gives you much power and influence over another human being.  Very big deal.

3. Confidence. I feel like one of the most dangerous things ever is for a woman to not have confidence.  Now all women make mistakes, but not having confidence will cause you to make many, many more.  Honestly, it will cause you to do things that you really don’t want to do.  As a mother of daughters I make it my priority to instill confidence in them.  If a woman lacks confidence she should make it a priority to get some, and if she already has it she should thank God for it.  Extremely important.

4. Thankfulness. A blessing to experience thankfulness?  Absolutely.  I’ve had times in my life when I felt like everything went wrong so we should definitely count thankfulness as a blessing.  Some people may appear to have everything they could ask for but still aren’t thankful, so we should never take a thankful heart for granted.  Regardless of where we are in life we should find something to be thankful for- even if it’s just to have life.  If we find it hard to be thankful for the life we live we may need to work toward creating a life that we can be thankful for.

5. Opportunities. Every woman was created for a specific purpose and what a blessing to be blessed with the opportunity to live that out while on Earth.  Women should develop themselves and their gifts so that God can use them and place them in the positions that He has for them.  We can’t be passive about living.  Anything worth having isn’t easily gained and this is the same for opporurtunities.  We should be willing to work for the opportunities that are ultimately ours…


VALUES: What kind of woman are you?

I recently heard of a story that really, really encouraged me:

A couple were divorcing because of the man’s unfaithfulness, yet despite his unfaithfulness she assured him that she would not do certain things to hurt him.  For example, she said she would not sleep with someone who knew, etc.

Think about that.  How often do you hear of situations such as these?  How many women do you know that would have responded the same?  More often than not we find reasons to justify our wrongdoing.  This situation is so powerful to me.

I applied it to myself and this woman encouraged me to be the woman that I know to be, despite what situation I find myself in.  Anyone can find a reason to do wrong, yet it takes a certain woman to be able to say: Even though you did me wrong, I’m going to stick to my values.

What are your values?  Do you have a value system that you live by?  I have to be honest and admit that I haven’t always had a value system.  The first time I seriously considered values I was in my early twenties working for a corporation that emphasized values and beliefs.

As women, we can’t just do things based on how we feel.  We can’t just respond and treat people based on how they treat us.  No, we must have a value system and rely on it to guide us.

According to Wikipedia, personal values provide an internal reference for what is good, beneficial, important, useful, beautiful, desirable and constructive. Values generate behavior and influence the choices made by an individual.

I ask again: What kind of woman are you?


When I say be the BADDEST I’m not referring to competing with anyone, or trying to be better than the next woman.  I don’t think comparing ourselves will help us be the best that we can be.  Honestly, I think comparing ourselves to others can make us feel worse about ourselves.

When I say be the BADDEST I’m referring to us as women being the best that we can be.  Focusing on ourselves, our growth, our goals, and our business so we have no choice but to get better.  Being the baddest requires us to prioritize and keep our focus where it needs to be.

When I say be the BADDEST I’m referring to being happy.  When we are happy it shows.  When we are happy we look more beautiful.  When we are happy we’re nicer.  When we are happy we are able to enjoy the lives we have.  No matter what we have we should always be happy.  If we are going to be the BADDEST we have to be content and happy with whatever we have or whatever situation we’re in.

When I say be the BADDEST  I’m referring to doing what’s best for you.  Oh my goodness, you have to be bold and sure about what you want and stick to it.  We can’t let others control us or tell us how we should live our lives.  We can’t let others dictate what we do and how we do it.  Hear me, we will have times when we need advice but it should be just that.  Advice.  We should never feel compelled to do what someone else wants us to do if we don’t feel it in our heart.  Being the BADDEST requires you to be bold.

When I say be the BADDEST I’m simply reminding all of us women to be the best that we can be.  We have to be happy with who we are, where we are in life, accept ourselves (flaws and all) and keep moving forward.  We must learn from our mistakes, don’t be afraid to try new things, keep believing, and keep living.

At the end of the day we should all be able to look in the mirror and say: “I’m the BADDEST”.



A woman can do nothing better than to build her home. She should mind her own business and tend to her own affairs. The woman that is truly handling her business has very little time to worry about someone else’s life.

It doesn’t matter whether the woman is single, in a relationship, with kids, or without kids. No matter the situation, she should focus her energies on her own responsibilities.

If she is single desiring a husband then she most certainly has work to do. If she has kids then she absolutely has work to do. And if she’s married with kids bless her heart. 🙂

No matter the situation, a woman should tend to her own household. Life is all about performance and it should be our duty to ensure that we are performing well in all of our responsibilities.

Our households should understand the importance of performing well and handling business. Women should keep their priorities in order, while keeping their household at the top of the priority list.

Here are a few scriptures to back this up:

Proverbs 14:1 “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”

1 Thessalonians 4:11-12 “Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work with your hands, just as we told you, so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody”.

Now, of course scripture does not apply only to women so we should all consider these principles; but women were on my mind when I was inspired to write.

So, women we must make sure that we’re striving for excellence, building our households, and minding our own business.



3 Thoughts on Love

1. I’m so glad I never settled for anything in my past. We all have had those relationships that felt right, although they weren’t. Time and time again, women are faced with decisions of being reasonable and understanding that no one is perfect, yet also understanding that there are certain things that we do and don’t deserve. We will never have a perfect relationship, but when it’s right you will feel so content with what you have- despite the imperfections.

2. When people want to change they DO change. You know those relationships where he continues to do the same thing year after year? He messes up, cries, crawls back with endless promises about how he will change; yet he stays the same. When you are in a relationship and your partner needs to change in certain areas he will put forth such effort that you notice his change.

3. Love is tight. Everyone knows that the love is real and no one can interfere with what you have. No secrets, no private conversations, there is nothing that you will do that will form a wedge between you and your love. You respect it and you do what you need to do to preserve and cherish it. True love is tight.

I’m no love expert, I’m just experiencing something that I’ve never experienced before and I’m really enjoying it.

When it comes to love: Don’t settle, do change, and keep it tight. 🙂