Forget their wrongs

Sometimes we are too worried about other people.

We see their wrongs and it frustrates us.  We talk about what they do.  We repeat it over and over again and get ourselves all worked up.

Does this help us?  No.  

Honestly, talking about the shortcomings of others does us no good.  If anything it can be an obstacle for us in doing right.

As followers of Christ, it doesn’t matter what they do.  We still have to love.  It doesn’t matter what they’ve said about us, how they’ve treated us, or what they are harboring in their hearts toward us.  It doesn’t matter.  We must still love them.  

Instead of dwelling on their wrongs, let’s forget about their shortcomings and dwell on the love and grace that Christ has shown us.  That will help us to love them, in spite of anything, which is what we are called to do anyway.

Forget what they’ve done wrong, and remember what Christ did for you.

It changes everything.

“And this I pray, that your love may abound yet more and more in knowledge and in all judgment; That ye may approve things that are excellent; that ye may be sincere and without offence till the day of Christ;”  – Philippians 1:9-10

It is a blessing to be able to discern a spirit, but it can be a hindrance if you are not able to love through what you see.  Honestly, if you can’t love through what you see it may be better to not even be able to see so that you may love.

“And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not love, I am nothing.”  – I Corinthians 13:2

Through it all, we are called to love.

Don’t allow the ugliness of others cause you to fall short.  Recognize where people are and love them right there.  Live and move wisely, but always love.

By your love will they know that you belong to Christ.



Embrace the Changes

It’s hard for so many people to live the life of their dreams because they can’t embrace the changes that come along with it.  

Success = change.

We want that, but we don’t want to let go of this.  We need to do that, but we can’t stop doing this.  I need friends like that, but all I have are friends like this.  I want to move forward, but I keep looking back.

Sometimes we seem so far from where we want to be, but the one thing that we must accept is that if we want to change our lives then we must be ready to embrace the changes that come along with it.

I get it, change hurts.

Even when we left go of something that’s no good for us it hurts.  Why?  Because it’s a change and anytime something changes we initially feel as if we’re losing something.  And we are, but we must accept that feeling of loss when it’s something that we know is not good for us.

If we’re honest with ourselves, then we all need to change something.  To say we don’t need to change is to say that our life is perfect, and no one has a perfect life.  Every change on the outside begins with change on the inside.  In order to change our lives we must first change within.

In order to change within we must be honest with ourselves about what’s really going on with us on the inside.  This is a specialty of God.  We walk around only focused on the outside of ourselves and others, and were missing it all:

“But the Lord said to Samuel, ‘Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him.  The Lord does not look at the things people look at.  People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”  – I Samuel 16:7

As we live our lives, we must accept a few things:

– If I want to change my life, I must change within.

– If I am to change within, I must be honest with myself and with God.

The beautiful thing about walking with God is that He is always doing something.  There is nothing stagnant about God, therefore, the person who walks with God will be not be stagnant.  

Another important thing to consider is that your life is your life.  Your walk with God is your walk with God.  We shouldn’t compare or compete with anyone, we must simply trust God and follow Him.  As we do this, we will see His mighty power unleashed in our lives.

Why forfeit the blessings of God for the sake of staying the same?

It’s not worth it.

Walk with God and embrace the changes that come your way.  Remember:

If nothing changes, nothing changes.


He Chose Me

May 15, 2017 I received my master’s degree, and all I can say is:

He chose me.

The apostle Paul wrote in I Corinthians 15:10:

“But by the grace of God I am what I am: and his grace which was bestowed upon me was not in vain; but I laboured more abundantly than they all: yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me.”

In other words, I can’t take the credit.  Everything I am is only because of His grace.

He chose me.

On the day of my graduation, the Lord reminded me that I could not even attribute my success to my intellect, as I had the same intellectual ability when I was making some very stupid decisions.  I don’t have my master’s degree because I’m so smart.  Nope, not at all.  I have my master’s degree because of His grace.

He chose me.

Some people have life stories that allow them to make the mistake of attributing their success to factors outside of God.  Even then it’s a mistake, but I do understand.  They think they’re successful because they’ve made all the right decisions, or because of their family background.  Well, personally I have no opportunity to take the credit for anything.  I know where I’ve come from.  I know where I started.  I know where I was going before I accepted Jesus into my heart, and I can see what He has done with me.  

He chose me.

I can’t boast of success because even with a master’s degree I know I have not arrived.  I know I am still being perfected in His sight.  My master’s degree has to stay in its place when it comes to my life, and I will not exalt it higher than I will exalt the One who blessed me with it.  A master’s degree is an applaudable accomplishment, but it doesn’t come close to knowing Jesus in an intimate way.  I praise Him and thank Him for allowing me to obtain such a degree while living my life on His earth. It’s all because of Him.

He chose me.

“Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.”  – Philippians 3:13-14

He chose me.


The Lord Chooses

The Lord chooses when to give life and when to allow death.  The Lord chooses when to exalt us and when to humble us.  The Lord chooses when to allow storms our way and He chooses when to tell the storm to be at peace.

The Lord chooses.  Who are we to question the almighty God?

God has perspective that we can’t handle.  God has insight that our minds can’t comprehend.  God isn’t surprised or caught off guard by anything that happens in our lives.  For Jesus said:

“I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end, the first and the last.”  – Revelation 22:13

He knows the story from beginning to end.  We can only handle what He allows us to handle, so instead of trying to figure everything out or ask God why, we simply must trust.

God doesn’t call us to do everything or know everything.  Instead, He requires us to obey Him, serve Him, and trust Him-despite not knowing it all.  We must trust that He is good and that He has a good plan for our lives, no matter what it looks like now.

“He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end.”  – Ecclesiastes  3:11

Instead of questioning God’s authority or wondering why, we should instead pray for strength to handle what comes our way.  We should pray that He will help us to become better not bitter because of our life circumstances.  We all have a sad story, but let’s respect God’s authority even when we don’t understand it.

He has the right to choose, and our best bet is to get on His program.  Reading God’s Word and seeking Him despite what comes our way will allow us to go through situations instead of allowing situations to overcome us.  

Seeking God in the midst of anything will allow us to view the situation as God views it, as opposed to responding immaturely, prematurely, or emotionally.

Regardless of what comes our way let’s remember that the Lord chooses.  We must simply trust Him and allow Him to work it out for our good.

“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”  – Romans 8:28


Dear Momma,

You were the one.

You were the one I called momma.  The one that took me as your own when my own couldn’t be there.  

You were the one.

You were the one who called me Margie and bought me my own my size Barbie.

You were the one.

You were the one who took me an ice cold bath when my temperature was too hot.

You were the one who made me hot tea when my lymph nodes were too fat.

You were the one.

You were the one who gave me stability, security, and protection from many things.

You were apart of the reason why I never felt unloved or unwanted growing up.

You loved me.

You were the one.

You were the one who told me to have my own child when I felt so left out.

You were the one who came and took care of Maraya when I went back to work.

It was you.

You were the one.

You were the one who sacrificed and gave to ensure that I didn’t lack.

You were the one who got me roller blades, stereos, and even my first car.

You did that.

You were the one.

You were the one who always told me to get an education.  No one else- only you.

You were the one.

You were the one who listened to me, laughed with me, and always accepted me being me.

You were the one.

Doris Ann Blue, I love you.  May you rest in peace and love.

You were the one.

Separate is Good

From the beginning, God has called for light to be separate from darkness:

“God saw that the light was good and He affirmed and sustained it; and God separated the light from the darkness.”                                 – Genesis 1:4

“For once you were darkness, but now you are Light in the Lord; walk as children of Light:”                                                                             – Ephesians 5:8

As we walk with the Lord and allow Him to change us, we should also allow Him to separate us.  For some reason as Christians we don’t always anticipate the changes that are to come as we walk with Him, but His Word makes it plain:

“Do not participate in the worthless and unproductive deeds of darkness, but instead expose them [by exemplifying personal integrity, moral courage, and godly character];” – Ephesians 5:11

Don’t believe that something is wrong with you because you are separated.  Instead, recognize the blessing and responsibility that comes along with being separated as children of light.  Indeed, it may sometimes appear that you are missing out, but remember that there is much more than meets the natural eye.

Being separated is good.  God separates for His good plans and purposes.  Expect to be separated as you continue to grow in Christ, and realize that most people can’t handle being separated- they need to be with the crowds to feel secure.  

People that forfeit walking with God in exchange for acceptance of the crowds only receive what the crowd can offer.  Don’t shortchange yourself.  As mere humans we’re all in need of something.  Why forfeit the many blessings of the Lord for a temporary sense of security from the crowd?

I love this:

“Am I now trying to win the favor and approval of men, or of God?  Or am I seeking to please someone?  If I were still trying to be popular with men, I would not be a bond servant of Christ.”  – Galatians 1:10

The thing is, most people are not around us because of who we are, but rather they are around us because of what we do.  There have been few people that have stayed close to me as I’ve gone through various changes in my life.  Most people are around us because we are doing what they do.  

Grow beyond needing to be with the crowd.  Grow without fear of being different from those around you.  Don’t settle and conform.  You can do so much more, you can go so much further if you get comfortable being separated.

Be separate.  Separate is good.