In today’s society, marriage is not always positively looked upon. It’s often not respected and women tend to view it as something that negatively impacts them. God instituted marriage and if we are led by Him to marriage and allow Him to take the lead within our marriages, we will truly be blessed. Marriage changes you in various ways.
3 Ways Marriage Changes You:
1. It secures you. Before I was married I was definitely a strong, secure, independent woman; but it’s something about marriage that provides you with a totally different kind of security. In my opinion, it’s better. When married, you feel secure enough to tackle things that you may not have attempted by yourself. You know, two is better than one:
“Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?”
– Ecclesiastes 4:9-11
The key is to allow God to lead you to your mate. Certainly, just being married doesn’t provide the security; it’s being married to the man that God places you with. Marriage should not hinder you; instead it should secure you and empower you to do all that God has called you to do.
2. It sensitizes you. The first major event in my life that sensitized me was becoming a mother. I remember after having my first child, Maraya, I noticed that I cried more easily. Marriage also has a way of sensitizing you. It’s not even a conscious process. There’s a level of intimacy and vulnerability that you experience within a marriage that nothing else can compare to. As I ponder this, sensitivity is required for a mother to be able to affectionately respond to her children. Likewise, sensitivity is required for a wife to affectionately and emotionally respond to her husband.
3. It strengthens you. Marriage shouldn’t weaken you, but instead it should strengthen you. First of all, marriage is not easy. Of course the good days should outnumber the tough days, but the tough days will inevitably come. When trying times come you can’t run from them- You have to face them head on.
As you face the various trials that come your way, and overcome them through Christ, you will find that your strength continues to grow. As you grow in marriage and learn that you are actually not fighting each other, but fighting your various situations, your marriage begins to grow and develop.
In addition to fighting external situations, marriage has a way of revealing what’s inside of you. As you fight your own internal issues and continue moving forward in marriage, you will no doubt become stronger.
With love,
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