Due to coronavirus, most of us have found ourselves being more of a full-time mommy than we’ve ever been. There have been no drop-offs at school, daycare, or anywhere. We’ve all been at home. How have you been handling it?
How are you handling being a full-time mommy?
Mommyhood can be a struggle for us all at times. It seems our job is never-ending, and we’re torn between caring for them and for ourselves. It’s a constant balancing act. Just last week, I hesitated before waking up the girls because I realized that once they were awake my job began.
We can all relate to this, and some may struggle even more so. Some struggle with nurturing their children, constantly fighting off the thoughts that they aren’t good enough. Being a full-time mommy is not easy, but the majority of our struggle occurs within us- in our heart & mind.
3 Tips for Being a Full-Time Mommy:
1. Love Them.
This may seem simple and yet hard at the same time. For some, loving their kids are easy; but others struggle in a major way with loving their kids due to past trauma, inability to express love in a healthy way to anyone, or maybe they haven’t fully accepted that they are a mom. The reasons are countless, but one thing remains:
Our kids are in desperate need of a mommy’s love.
Look at your kids and realize that they did nothing to be here. Their existence is due to our actions. We must own that and do whatever is necessary to give them the best start in life- starting with giving them our love.
Life will present enough challenges for them. Let’s not start them off on the wrong path by not providing them with our love.
2. Be Present.
Women are pulled in so many directions. All of our lives may look differently, but no doubt we all have many things pulling for our attention. Begin to assess what you spend your energy on. I have found that the more engaged I am with my own household, the less energy I have for non-essentials. Don’t allow the unimportant and trivial, steal your attention from your most prized possessions- your children.
Be present with them.
3. Listen to them.
We tend to think that children have it easy. No doubt, they don’t have to worry about bills and other adult responsiblities; but they do have concerns. They worry about things, things scare them, they have their own personal struggles. It is extremely easy to miss their real heart issues because we aren’t paying attention.
Take the time to simply listen to them.
Ask them questions without lecturing. Lay across their bed and enter their space. Sometimes we’re so focused on other things that we are communicating to our children that we don’t care- even if unintentionally. We communicate to our kids in so many ways and one way we communicate their importance to us is by listening to them.
Being a full-time mommy is certainly not easy, but it is so worth it. We are responsible for these little people that will one day grow into men and women. How we prioritize mommyhood now will play a huge role in the lives that they live.
Let’s do our part and give them our best, realizing that God is there to help us every step of the way. We just have to depend on Him.
“I lift up my eyes to the mountains—
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord,
the Maker of heaven and earth.”
– Psalm 121:1-2
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