One of the hardest things about being a wife, mommy, and professional, is establishing boundaries. Personally, I feel like I’m constantly working to maintain balance across my various roles. I’m an advocate for priorities, yet, it gets to a point where we must grow in prioritizing our priorities! This is where establishing boundaries comes into play.
Establishing boundaries requires intention.
Establishing boundaries is something that requires intention, quiet time, and forethought. We must prioritize quiet time alone with God where we express our heart’s desires and frustrations. In doing so, we open ourselves up to God’s divine wisdom.
Lately, God has been protecting me so much from haste. In my frustration, due to the constant work of balance, I will often feel like quitting some things. Good things, may I add. So, as you are focused on establishing boundaries, let me discourage you from moving in haste.
Don’t make decisions while frustrated.
When you are feeling frustrated, pulled, and overwhelmed; don’t walk away from commitments. Especially commitments which were once a dream, desire, or prayer. This is so spiritual, because there are times in life when God will lead us to adjust and pivot. When He’s leading, yield. When you’re frustrated, rest.
I often find that when I’m feeling agitated, easily frustrated, and overwhelmed; I’m missing God. I’m still fairly fresh to working full-time after staying at home with our girls. When I stayed at home, I spent a lot of time with God. After going back to work, I vividly remember missing that quality time. As the seasons change, we so quickly adjust to our circumstances, however, as children of God, we always need quality time with Him.
Our souls desire time with God, and we’ll be blessed with red flags when we’re slacking.
What are your red flags?
Mine include:
– fatigue [physical, mental, emotional]
– overwhelm
– lack of fulfillment, focus, clarity
– mental distortions & unhealthy thought patterns
– lack of confidence, negativity, isolation
– procrastination & neglecting priorities
If you relate, don’t allow these red flags to cause even more frustration. Consider them signs that you need to focus on establishing boundaries. Though boundaries tend to carry a negative connotation, they really are good!
Boundaries help us to show up as our best in every area of our lives.
A lack of boundaries may cause you to overly prioritize certain obligations, while under-prioritizing others. Establishing boundaries will allow us to live healthy, balanced lives.
I love the Lord so much and for so many reasons. One of them is how He blesses His children with self-awareness. We mustn’t look to others to help us establish healthy boundaries in our lives. We must look to the One who created us. Not only did He create us, but He has blessed us. Every good and perfect gift comes from above [James 1:17].
God will help us to manage what He’s given us.
We must look to the Lord when establishing boundaries. He is faithful and able to lead us every step of the way.
With love,
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