MARRIAGE: Be who he needs

There is a big difference in being a woman that a man wants and being a woman that a man needs.  If your aim is to be a wife then be confident in being the woman that he needs.  Even though they don’t always tell us, men know in their heart if we are the woman that they want right now vs. the woman that they need.  Most men enjoy being with the woman that they want until they take the huge step of going after what they need- as opposed to what they want.

What we want and what we need are sometimes two very different things, and when it comes to marriage it’s about making a decision to go after what you need as opposed to what you want.  Our wants so often can lead us astray.  We all have times in our life when we want what’s not good for us.  That should be a season, not a lifestyle.  Living a life based on wants won’t bring back the best results in the long run.

Life is about recognizing what we need and making wise decisions to go after it.  We have to grow to a point of not living a life based on wants, and we certainly have to grow past how we feel.  Feelings can be so misleading & they change constantly.  Feelings are unstable and we certainly can’t depend solely on them when it comes to taking the step into marriage.

For me personally, I remember thinking about being old and alone.  I don’t think we’re meant to be alone & I didn’t want that to be my story.  In my youth I sure didn’t need a man- I was INDEPENDENT.  But I knew there would come a time when I would need to consider more.  What do you need to consider?  We are all different and we all have different things to consider.  

Regardless of your situation, take the time to consider what you need as opposed to what you want.

As a woman, don’t sell yourself short and be what he wants right now because the time will come when he will grow and decide to take that step towards what he needs.  

Are you what he needs?  

Be the woman that he needs not what he wants.  Being the needed one is much more valuable.

Wrote with Love,


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