What you respect you will protect. What you respect will guide your actions. Do you respect marriage?
I respect marriage, and I’m finding that because of that my actions follow suit.
Prior to marriage, your thinking is different, and that is understandable because you haven’t yet entered into the covenant of marriage. However, after you say I do, your actions should change. Although we don’t always anticipate and easily accept the changes that marriage brings, we must respect it and understand it’s a part of the process. We can’t get married and think that everything will remain the same. If we want everything to stay the same we should stay single.
Marriage is good and it brings good changes.
1. Don’t expect everyone to get it. Especially those that aren’t married. How could they understand something that they’ve never experienced? Although they don’t understand it, they should respect it, and that in itself is respectable. However, even if they don’t get it, it’s not your job to help them get it. Don’t lose your focus. Now that you are married, after God your marriage is your #1 priority.
2. Where are you going? A marriage is a ministry, and I believe that a marriage is one of God’s most powerful tools on Earth- which is why Satan seeks to destroy the marriage like he does. Think about it, marriage is no longer valued in society as it used to be, and as a result the family is broken. Take a look at society.
Now that you are married, you must consider where you and your spouse are going. Look at your relationships, consider where God is leading you and make the necessary changes. Be intentional about walking worthy of the calling God has on your life. Don’t make any decisions out of fear or guilt, but do everything in faith. Keep in mind that as you make changes, God has always called us to love others. The fellowship may change, but the relationship is still there and we can always cover it in prayer and love. We must, however, use wisdom to protect our marriage and to live the life that God has called us to live.
3. Don’t appease. Whatever you do, do it because the Lord leads you to do it. Do it because it’s best for you, your marriage, and your family. Don’t do anything to appease or please others. If you aim to appease, you will never win, because there will always be something else they need. So, don’t waste time trying to keep others happy. Use your energy to build your marriage, your family, and let God lead you to do anything outside of that.
Marriage is one of the greatest blessings I have received from God and I’m loving the journey- learning every step of the way. I’ve accepted that marriage requires change & I’m willing to make any changes necessary, because I know it’s worth it. Even when it hurts, I know it’s worth it, so I’ll do whatever I have to do.
“So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” – Matthew 19:6