As I watch the inauguration events, I’m humbled and encouraged by the diplomatic engagement between former President Obama and current President Trump. I’m forced to look within and ask myself:
Am I capable of diplomatically disagreeing?
I believe that this is a question that all of us should ask ourselves. So many marriages dissolve because of the inability to diplomatically disagree. Friendships end, violence erupts, people hate and even kill all because they disagree. This should not be so.
The ability to disagree diplomatically displays a high level of maturity. It also displays a high level of emotional intelligence and self-control. It takes intention, and I’m certain a lot of practice, in order to engage respectfully with those that we absolutely disagree with.
Lately, I’ve been focused on love. Not the world’s definition of love, but rather the love of God that is unconditional and sacrificial. Me learning myself, I know that in order for me to disagree diplomatically I will need to focus on love. Walk in love, separating the person from their ideas as well as their actions.
“Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children; And walk in love…” – Ephesians 5:1-2
We must first have a love for humankind and then we can disagree with someone and not hate them. Secondly, we must figure out what we individually have to do in order to be able to diplomatically disagree. Manage our anger, deal with our insecurities, get comfortable expressing ourselves? We have to figure that part out on our own.
Now, I’m not oblivious to the fact that we all have our passions and our irritations. That’s okay, that’s what makes us unique. I’m also not suggesting that we throw all of our values to the wayside. I’m suggesting just the opposite, that we still hold on to what we value while we also diplomatically deal with those that disagree with us.
What do you think? Do you disagree?