Have you ever left a conversation feeling like “Why did I say that?” or “I should have said this.” Of course you have. We all have, which is a perfect reminder of why we should all control our conversations.
We shouldn’t feel forced to discuss certain topics if we aren’t comfortable, nor should we answer questions that we really don’t want to answer. Some people are nosey and their main objective when speaking with us is to get as much information as possible. Some people are gossips, others are negative, and the list goes on.
Now, I’m not saying that it’s all bad and to trust no one. I’m just reminding us all to be wise with our words. I try to ask the Lord everyday to guide my thoughts, words, and actions. Sometimes we can be more focused on being polite than we are on being wise. Wisdom should trump politeness.
I believe 2 factors should influence how we conversate:
1- Our values and what is and isn’t up for discussion. Know what you are comfortable discussing before you’re in the middle of a conversation. A few suggestions on what not to discuss in general conversations are marital or money issues. Of course these are suggestions. Everyone may have different limits on what they’ll discuss and that’s okay. Just know your values.
2- Who we are speaking with. The fact is we trust some people more than others so our trust in a person will influence our conversation. We always have to consider who we are talking to in order to know what to say and what not to say. Public speakers refer to this as knowing your audience.
Conversations are a large part of life and they have a huge influence over the quality of our lives so don’t engage in them carelessly. Be thoughtful, wise, and most of all don’t feel powerless in controlling your conversations.
You control your conversations.