I recently heard of a story that really, really encouraged me:
A couple were divorcing because of the man’s unfaithfulness, yet despite his unfaithfulness she assured him that she would not do certain things to hurt him. For example, she said she would not sleep with someone who knew, etc.
Think about that. How often do you hear of situations such as these? How many women do you know that would have responded the same? More often than not we find reasons to justify our wrongdoing. This situation is so powerful to me.
I applied it to myself and this woman encouraged me to be the woman that I know to be, despite what situation I find myself in. Anyone can find a reason to do wrong, yet it takes a certain woman to be able to say: Even though you did me wrong, I’m going to stick to my values.
What are your values? Do you have a value system that you live by? I have to be honest and admit that I haven’t always had a value system. The first time I seriously considered values I was in my early twenties working for a corporation that emphasized values and beliefs.
As women, we can’t just do things based on how we feel. We can’t just respond and treat people based on how they treat us. No, we must have a value system and rely on it to guide us.
According to Wikipedia, personal values provide an internal reference for what is good, beneficial, important, useful, beautiful, desirable and constructive. Values generate behavior and influence the choices made by an individual.
I ask again: What kind of woman are you?