If I can be honest, and I will because this is my website, relationships can be torture sometimes. I’ve always said that singleness is more enjoyable, while relationships are more worthwhile.
One of the things about singleness that scares me is being old and alone. I don’t believe that we were designed to be alone, and it scares me to think that I could fall one day and no one would be there to help me.
Personally, I know that when I was in my early 20’s I was nowhere near ready for marriage. Now, I’m almost 30 and closer to marriage and I wonder “Is this what I really want?”
I feel that relationships require BOTH parties to make some adjustments, not just one. I feel that relationships require you to be more sensitive to the needs of your partner, not just doing things as you see fit. I feel that relationships force you to focus on how you can be better for yourself and for your partner. Synchrony and harmony are critically important.
Without these sacrifices and perspective shifters, any relationship is doomed to fail. And if it doesn’t fail, one person may be happy while the other is unhappy and unfulfilled.
This is tough stuff and most people see themselves as being ‘ok’ and ‘right’, while they see the other person’s faults so clear and bright.
I have grown to understand that no one is perfect and therefore no relationship is perfect, but I just feel like some relationships require too much work! How on Earth can we support each other fulfilling our life’s purpose when we don’t even truly put forth effort into fully understanding and meshing with one another?
I’m woman enough to know that I can’t change a person. Only God can do that. I’m also wise enough to know that I typically run when relationships pose difficulties. Right now I’m really seeking balance.
Please know that I’m not bashing anyone, I’m just expressing myself. Maybe someone can relate and not feel alone, or maybe you will just realize that I’m blessed but I sure ain’t living a fairy-tale.