If we truly love someone then we are able to appreciate them even though they are different from us. We should not try to change them or turn them into something they’re not.
If we are constantly comparing their way of doing things to ours then we may just be full of pride. Pride says “I do it better” or “You should do it the way that I do it.”
We may not verbally say these things but we say them in our mind. We listen to them and we think “I would’ve done this.”
This is not love and it has no business in any relationship!
Instead, we should listen intently so that we can fully understand our mate. We should recognize that they handle things different from us and that is perfectly okay.
We must overlook the simple things and appreciate their unique being. We’re all special and unique in the way that we do things. Again, that is perfectly okay!
True love overlooks differences and honestly it appreciates them. Love recognizes that there are differences and tries to get understanding. Instead of magnifying the differences we should spend time understanding the ‘whys’.
We should spend time fully understanding our mate so that we know why they do things the way they do. We all have a story and love will try to uncover that story. Love is understanding.
If you say that you love your mate let me remind you of what love is and what it is not:
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
– Corinthians 13:1-7
So, if you say you love your mate then meditate on what love truly is.